Just too many..................

Going through the UAADV email, it just really hit me that there's just too many Victims, Survivors, and NCM's that are searching for help and support, too many that don't have that local support for themselves our their children.

Don't get me wrong!  I'm glad that they come to us, but to hear their need for help, to know they aren't getting the help that they need, it just eats at me.  I want anyone that needs support to come to us, but it gets to me at times knowing that they aren't getting it anywhere else. 

I guess that's what got me to start UAADV to begin with huh?  Yet, it still bothers me, and I feel for each and every one of them...........

Just needed to vent after contacting 14 Survivors back.

Just one more thing..........

Those that seem to be of the opinion that Domestic Violence ends after a Victim leaves the household are wrong, sometimes dead wrong.  Many times the abuse doesn't end!  The stalking begins, the harassment, the mind games, the abuse through the court systems.  Too many Victims do not have the chance to heal, or to get away from the abuse. 

Not to mention the years of healing that a Victim must go through...........................

Not to mention the healing and the hell that the children must go through....................

There's just too many................

Inside "Glittering Truths"

I'm a Mother, a Christian, a CA/DV/SA Survivor & Advocate, a Homeschooler, a GAL/CASA (not to be confused with GAL's that are in a paid position in many states), a Woman.  I am many things, yet am only one.  One drop in the ocean, but hopefully that one drop can join in on a storm!

I have created this blog as an outlet, to share my feelings of all the above and more, and to hopefully share what it means to be a Survivor & Advocate.  My advocacy fills most of my time, thoughts and energy, yet, Advocates are so much more then what people see!

We do have lives outside our advocacy.  We have families, we have hobbies, we have lives!  Such a concept huh? LOL  But, we all do, and yet, we diverge from all of this during our advocacy.  I truly feel that our experiences, our feelings, our thoughts and dreams, give us many tools in which to use.  Our experiences give us the drive to do what we do.  So many of us, after getting out of our abusive situations promise ourselves that we will NOT let this happen to someone else, that we WILL do something to stop it!  I applaud those that have made good on this promise, we need each and every one of them.

This was my premise behind creating UAADV over 3 years ago.  There are so many Survivors out there, 1 in 3 women go through abuse.  Think of how many Survivors are out there that can be a part of the solution if only they had the tools to do so!  I got tired of hearing from DV Agencies that they didn't know how to get a hold of Survivors.  We're everywhere!  So, UAADV was created, and in the time we have been, we have grown, and continue to do so.

Ok, so a little about me.......

First off, I'm a red-head.  Although I have a lot of patience, I'm like a typical red-head in when you do get me mad, well, suffice it to say it's time to back off. LOL  It takes me a bit to get to that point, but when it comes to Domestic Violence, Rape, Child Abuse, Court Corruption, taking a child from a Good Parent, well, it doesn't take much at all.

I have 2 children, Devon who will be 13 next month (a teenager in my house!  AAGGHHH), and Angel who is 8.  They are both homeschooled and are great kids.  Devon has autism, and Angel developmental cognitive delays.  No matter what, they are intelligent and very bright children, and I have no worries that they are going to go far.  They just need to be shown that the sky is the limit, and I know that they'll take it from there.

I am in a long term relationship, working on wiping things from the past so that we can move on with our future together.  We've been together for over 9 years now, not married yet (working on it), and yet, we've been together and through more then most married couples have!  A sad fact........We are married in our hearts and under God until we can legally complete our marriage.  To us, it's a piece of paper...

I'm a GAL/CASA worker for Robeson Co. in NC.  I LOVE being a GAL, and trying to help abused children have an abuse free life.  I just wish I had this available to me as a child, I may not have gone through what I did, yet, what I have gone through has made me who I am today.  hmmmm..........

I'm involved with several different DV Agencies & Organizations.  There are so many out there doing such wonderful things! 

I love angels, butterflies, faerie's, and life.  We have 3 dogs, 7 cats (4 whom are still toe biting kittens), 2 chinchillas and a gecko.  We love keeping our house full!   I LOVE my Sister Survivors & those within the DV field that are working to make a difference!

I hate abusers, liars, cheaters, those that say you "can't" do something, those that try and tear down your dreams.   I hate rainy days, makes my joints ache. LOL

All in all, just a normal, every day woman that is on a mission.  That has been through and seen things in my life that I can't sit back and ignore, and will never choose to do so. 

So, this is my place to come when I have something on my mind.  When I want to "Let the Bitch Out" as is said within the DV field.  When I just can't keep my anger, my anguish, the tears, and the laughter to myself any longer.